Once the initial fog of new parenthood starts to clear (it does happen) you remember the world is still out there and that perhaps there are a few things you used to enjoy, that you haven’t thought about in a while. Hobbies, working out, going for cocktails (without a pram), clubbing even, may all seem like distant memories at first but you will eventually get to the point where you start to feel…..a little more in control! If you haven’t spent enough time on your own self care, you might also start to feel a little depleted. I remember about six weeks in realising I haven’t done one thing without Finley since the day he was born. Shortly after, I went all out and left the house completely on my own to meet a friend for a couple of hours. I returned refreshed and positive and to top it off, I hadn’t had to change a nappy or get my boobs out for an entire evening. Win Win. The next day I felt so much better and as a result? I was a much better mum. Recharged, relaxed and celebrating the fact I was nailing my new social life. You see you have to take the time to work on your own health to be able to serve others. The better YOU feel, the better care you can provide. Even taking just a few minutes (ideally longer) for self care can make a huge difference, mentally and physically. You’re not selfish for doing something that feels good or having fun. You need it. ‘You can’t pour from an empty cup.’ So, whatever it is you love, fit it into your daily life in some form. A spa day might be unrealistic but you can fill the bath with your favourite products, light a candle and relax, even just for a few minutes.